No parent wants to see their child feeling blue, but sadly, heartbreak is a common experience among young people. If your child has recently gone through an incident that has left them heartbroken, your first instinct is to ease their pain.
If your child is in a vulnerable place emotionally, it might be beneficial to take these careful steps as you reach out to provide support.
Be Available
Most of the time, a heartbroken young person doesn’t expect an instant resolution for the sadness they’re dealing with. Instead, they want to know they have the support of people they trust. Remind your child that you’re available if they want to talk about how they’re feeling.
Empathize and Share
As an adult, you’re aware that the end of a school-age relationship isn’t the end of the world, but for your child, their heartbreak is a big deal. Empathize with them and try to avoid common clichés that will make them feel belittled. Share your own experience with heartbreak when you were your child’s age so that they know you’ve been there before.
Propose a New Outlook
Heartbreak is a learning experience, but when it’s fresh in a young person’s mind, it’s hard to see past simply hurting. When talking to your child about their experience, remind them of the positives, lessons they’ve learned, and how even though they’re feeling low, they’re going to heal and become stronger in the end.
Heartbreak is an unfortunate rite of passage and the fact that your child feels the way they do indicates that as they’re growing, they’re processing mature human emotions.
Keep Them Engaged
While it’s important to give your child time to be alone if they request it, it’s also a good idea to try keeping your child engaged with enjoyable activities. Helping them get their mind off the heartbreak they’re experiencing can encourage them to heal more effectively.
However, before you plan to take your child out for a fun event, ask if they’re feeling up for it. Additionally, asking your child for input on what they want to do can help ensure that you both have a good time.
Chances are, your child is going to recover from the sadness they’re dealing with in due time, but keep an eye out for extended personality changes like depression, withdrawal, and appetite changes. If you’re concerned about your child’s mental health, reach out to a qualified therapist, psychologist, or counselor for professional assistance.
